My son has been on the medication for 3 years now-

our Dr never does anything but write more scripts.

Im wanting ideas on handling adhd without the medication, and if it would be okay to flat stop the meds to see if he even still needs it.

I've been a teacher for many years. What I've seen help is reduce sugar intake. Use lots of routine. Before you change, give a 5 min. warning in a calm voice... then 1 min. as a reminder then, as smoothly as possible, shift into the change (activity, circumstance, whatever). But most of all, you must, and I cannot stress this enough, you MUST be CONSISTENT. I've heard numerous reports of dramatic results just from "meaning what you say" and sticking to it. Show your child attention (fair, do NOT overdo it/spoil) love them, but give them responsibilities and routines.then be consistent!!! :) Meds are just a drug they DO NOT fix anything. in fact, research shows that they can stunt growth and in some cases cause permanent brain damage. I know you worry. He is your child. Also, he is your child. Trust yourself. My son - ADHD too. However, check into getting a new doc. My son does take meds. too but I trust his doc. (who also has kids). Doesn't sound like you are confident with his doc. Check with your pharmacist about stopping the meds. it is their job to knowledgeable on effects of meds. and I have had wonderful interactions with the local pharmacist explaining and they will tell you to also check w/ doc. Since he is not your favorite, search for local ADHD info/support in your area. They have seen/heard it all and can probably get you some names for docs. w/ good reps. via word of mouth. A doc. who will discuss meds, counseling, structure in the home, sounds, colors, & foods that can be a variable with ADHD. Please think about it. My young son is my heart. I hope this will give a new perspective and you do have options. There's a video on this site that explains one approach that has helped many. I might work for your son too.